(ENG Let People Live Their Own Principles

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Lately, people have been labelling me as a follower of Gitasav’s mindset.

Seeing all the hype lately, people started saying, “Look, the person you idolize is trending now. How come you idolize someone like that?”

Well, let me clear this up first, bro. When I admire someone, it’s because of the work they’ve done, what they’ve achieved, and whether the good things they have can inspire me to do better. If there are parts that don’t fit with my own way of thinking? Well… so what? I just take the good parts, not their whole life concept. If I let someone’s principles completely change my own, that wouldn’t be admiration anymore—that would be fanaticism.

So, what’s the big deal about Gitasav right now?

Yeah, that.

Child free.

Just Google it yourself if you don’t know what it means.

Now if you ask me, “Do you agree with the child free concept?”

My answer is, “No.”

One day I’ll marry the person Allah has destined for me, with the purpose of having children—so I can raise them to be better than me, so that when I pass away, I can at least hope for the prayers of a righteous child. How does that make sense if you die and have no child to pray for you? But hey, that’s their choice. It doesn’t interfere with my concept of life.

Simple, right?

Her life is her life, I really don’t have anything to do with her principles.

And if you ask again, “But doesn’t she end up influencing people to follow her child free concept, and isn’t that bad?”

Yeah, it is. I personally think being child free is for people who marry just to be with their partner until death—no kids, no extra hassle. Maybe they think, “Taking care of my husband or wife is already exhausting, why should I add a kid on top of that? Or, I'm scary if I couldn't be a good parents for my kids," something like that.

I mean, okay, if someone has clear reasons for not wanting kids—fine, that’s still understandable. But honestly, please, just keep it to yourself. Because if you say it out loud, you’re just going to get dragged and attacked by the whole society. Noisy, messy, annoying.

Maybe some people decide to speak up about being child free because once they get married, they’re bombarded with the question, “So, when are you having kids?” and they’re just tired of it.

It’s like: “It’s my womb, why are you exploiting it?”

Maybe that’s their principle.

But for me, aside from how annoying that question can be, it’s actually kind of normal in our society—friends, relatives, parents asking about kids once you’re married. Of course, it can be sensitive for some, but like I always say: we don’t live alone in this world. There are so many heads with so many different thoughts. Anything that goes against the “general” mindset of society is bound to spark controversy.

And you just have to be ready for that.

Sure, there are people who don’t want to live like “normal” people. But again—don’t act superior, don’t act like you’re the only one who’s right, don’t expect everyone to agree with you. Otherwise, your heart will just harden.

If someone doesn’t agree with your principles, then fine. Leave it like that. No need to shout out louder just to make them understand. Because the truth is, the louder you shout, the more irritated people get with all the unnecessary drama.

Let people live with their own principles.

If Gitasav wants to be child free, then fine. That’s her life, her choice. Whether or not someone prays for her when she’s gone—that’s between her and Allah. Why should we get caught up in it?

The world’s population is already crowded enough, so there’s really no need to add more chaos to it.

I’m not defending anyone here.

I’m not defending Gitasav, but I’m also not condemning her statements. They just don’t align with my own concept of life. That’s it. The point is: let her live however she wants. Not everyone has to agree with your principles, just like she doesn’t have to agree with the idea that marriage must just mean by having kids.

Just let it be.

Instead of wasting your energy getting mad, it’s better to spend that energy on istighfar.