(ENG) Not Being Pretty Is Not a Sin

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To be honest, I’m a little tired and bored of talking about this topic on here. Because when I think about it, it’s one of those topics that never really ends. Even if I wrote about it every month or every year, there would always be something new to deal with.

But today something happened that made me want to bring it up again. And honestly, it’s really interesting. I won’t mention who caused the problem—because honestly, I don’t feel like fighting—but I’ll just talk about the issue itself.

We all know how big beauty standards are in society. We all know how annoying they are, how suffocating they can be. Standards that make us feel embarrassed to speak, ashamed to meet people, and force us to hide under our blankets.

And you know what’s even worse? When people judge friendships based on looks—on your face, on whether you have acne or not. That’s just… disgusting. Why should anyone care if someone has pimples, dark skin, extra weight, or isn’t tall? It’s none of your business.

We don’t get to choose how we’re born. You think life is like a restaurant where you can order your nose shape, pick your eye size, or add thick eyebrows as a side dish? No. If everyone could “order” their beauty, imagine what would happen—no one would be considered pretty anymore. Because if everyone’s pretty, then no one is. We’d all just look the same.

And believe it or not, not everyone even wants to be considered pretty. Why? Because sometimes beauty is a burden. Sometimes it’s misunderstood. Sometimes it becomes a privilege that overshadows everything else about a person. People end up thinking, “It’s okay, you don’t have to do anything—just being pretty is enough.” And so the pretty ones end up doing nothing at all, because the world rewards them for simply existing.

There’s nothing wrong with being pretty.

But not being pretty is not a mistake either.

Yet, somehow, those who don’t fit into society’s idea of beauty are always treated like they’re wrong. But no, dear—being “not pretty” is not a crime. Wake up. You’ll be fine.

What also frustrates me is when people aggressively push their idea of beauty standards onto others. They insist that fair skin, sharp noses, big eyes, and slim faces are the “real” definition of beauty. Look, it’s fine if that’s your personal preference. But please—keep it to yourself. Not every thought in your head needs to be spoken out loud, especially if it’s only going to hurt someone else. Remember: this world isn’t just about you.

I’m not saying I’m perfect, or that I’ve figured everything out. But please—stop saying things that make other people feel small. Maybe to you, a comment like, “Wow, your acne’s really bad,” feels harmless. But to someone else, those words cut deep.

Here’s what we all need to remember: not everyone is born with the privilege of looking like society’s version of “beautiful.” But everyone is born with the same opportunity to live, to grow, to shine—in their own way.

So really, the point is simple: shut up. Stop making beauty a weapon.